Great Tips to Get Your Ex Back
Aren’t you fed up of well-meaning friends who tell you to forget your ex and move on? They just don’t understand how you feel, right? Worst of all are the philosophical know-it-alls who say things like, “This is part of life, it happens to all of us, you’ll soon get over it,” or some other crap like that. Keep reading, we have some great tips to get your ex back.
What you want are some tips you can use to get your ex back. Well, look no further. I’m going to reveal some surefire tips that are time-tested and proven to get your ex back with you.
First of all, you should never go to pieces and cry or beg him or her to come back. Using the old get-all-emotional-to-gain-sympathy tactic (for women) never works. It will only drive your man further away from you because no one is attracted to a weakling.
Next, do not try to get back your ex by making him or her jealous. Your ex can see through that in a moment and it will be looked upon as a cheap shot. Worse still if your ex repays you tit-for-tat, it’s game over for the both of you.
The first thing you should do is agree with your ex about the break. This gives you and your ex the time and space to settle down. Just maintain your friendship but take a break from seeing each other for awhile. Use the time you have to focus on yourself instead of on your ex. When you focus on yourself, think of ways to change for the better. It takes at least 3 weeks of consistent practice and action to develop a new habit, so use this time to develop some good ones. This will stand you in good stead when you try to win back your ex later.
So think about your faults and character flaws. We all have them. Those that especially contributed to the breakup need to be thrown out. You should also think about what changes you can make physically. It may be your looks, your dressing, your lifestyle or behaviors. In short, try to be the best person you can be.
Once you have effected some telling changes in your life, you can think about taking steps to get your ex back. It starts with finding the opportunity to meet up. But don’t make it a pressure on your ex to meet with you. Find a casual occasion and ask him or her to join you in it. For a start, it may even be in a group. That’s fine, as long as you have a chance to interact.
After that initial contact, it gets easier to meet again. Now ask your ex to meet up but just the two of you. Again, it should be in a relaxed atmosphere where you can have some fun together. It would be a good idea to make it a multiple event occasion, say a carnival, then dinner followed by a movie. Each of these occasions form a fun memory for your ex on which you can build later.
If your ex has agreed to go with you on those occasions above, you stand a good chance of getting him or her back. By now, your ex would have most certainly noticed the changes in you, whether physically, behaviorally or in character. Eventually, you can talk with your ex about deeper issues like your resuming your relationship. And that is the most effective way to get your ex back.