How to Fix a Sexless Marriage

If you’ve found yourself here, you’re in the right place.  Fixing a sexless marriage has less to do with sex and more to do with the marriage itself. There are no easy answers, but according to most psychologists there are “simple” tips you can follow. What these “simple” tips don’t offer is addressing a sexless marriage requires a degree of professional help. After reviewing the 3 steps below, you can download our iOS and Android apps and speak with an expert free of charge. If you want, you can just skip to the download.

Be willing to make some changes.

First and foremost you have to be willing to make some changes. Making these changes has more to do with you than you partner.  Stop blaming them for why you aren’t having sex. The truth is, most all people want to have sex and the reasons surrounding a sexless marriage have to do with the roles of each of you. You have to take responsibility for your role in the situation. This is akin to finding your inner peace presented in “how to fix a broken relationship”. That’s in the only way you can begin to take control of the situation. What can you do better to improve the situation? If something is missing in the situation, can you fill in the blanks? Be the first to fill in the blanks. It maybe painful, but nothing can be more painful than a sexless marriage.

Set up a time free of distractions to discuss and implement your plan to fill in the blank.

Once you have identified what you can do to address your sexless marriage, it’s time to set up a time to discuss NOT the problem, but your plan to fill in the blanks. This conversation mustn’t be about not having sex, but about creating a way to improve your situation. Maybe you discuss going out for a weekend (if that’s filling in the blank). Maybe you surprise your partner with something they would like in the form of a gift, etc.  There is no right answer here other than ensuring you are doing your best to fill in the blanks. This is how you can regain some footing in how to fix a sexless marriage.