Overcoming Jealousy in Marriage
Overcoming jealousy in marriage can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be if you know what to do. If you’re a drama king or queen you most likely have fits of jealousy because you thrive on drama. The whole jealousy mindset is about drama and insecurity.
There is such a thing as healthy jealousy where you see someone really is flirting with your spouse or vice versa. Or you have found REAL evidence of cheating not something you made up in your mind. Many times jealousy is imagined and not a reality.
In the later case we call this paranoia. Paranoid people don’t stick to the facts they imagine all sorts of sordid details. There are a few reasons for this and they are insecurity, trust issues, low self esteem, resentment, bitterness, and anger. If a person unresolved issues from their past they may act out with jealousy fits.
Overcoming jealousy may not be easy, but it can be done. If you’re having problems with a jealous spouse or you are one and are acting out by getting passwords to cell phones and computers, accusing, losing sleep and have thoughts racing day and night about what your spouse is doing and where they are, you need help.
Below is list of things you can do to overcome jealousy until you get the help needed
1. Stick to the FACTS! Don’t jump to conclusions and panic
2. Don’t compare yourself with other men/women we all have our strong/weak points
3. Have a talk with your spouse when you’re calm about what is/is not acceptable
4. Jealousy stems from insecurity, look inward, read self help books and take action
5. Strengthen the relationship by spending quality time together
6. Stay positive, paranoid jealousy is negative and hurts both parties
7. This goes without saying- Get counseling asap – therapist, counselor, pastor
Overcoming jealousy is possible, however, you need to acknowledge it and be willing to do whatever it takes to get it out of your relationship forever.