Congratulations to make it this far! I am really really excited to share with you my personal Secret Techniques that I have employed to get my ex back.
Now that you have finally understood (If you have been honest with yourself till now) the core elements of in getting back your ex (Step 1) and listed all positive aspects, positive experiences of the relationship you shared with your ex (Step 2), it is now time to discuss the proven texting system that I have shared with you earlier to get back your ex. I’m sure you are very positive and confident by now (you should be).
In case you haven’t read through step 1 and 2. I strongly urge you to read them first before using my secret techniques as going through step 3 alone might be dangerous to your relationship since the it requires the foundations that I have discussed in step 1 and 2.
Here is Step 1: Core elements of a Relationship – Step 1
Here is Step 2: Transform Your Ex Emotions – Step 2
Just a disclaimer here: These are not some kind of B.S techniques, rather it has been proven to be very effective to save not only my dying relationship as well as many of my close friends whom I have shared the secret techniques with. I have never thought of sharing this techniques to the public as I afraid people might just exploit the method and become useless again as other “save relationship” techniques out there. After much consideration, I decided to give away some of secret techniques that I have used which has proven to be extremely effective as I can understand and feel the desperate, frustrations and the roller coaster feelings that you are going through right now.
You see, people try all sorts of techniques to get back their lost love but most of the techniques actually do not work. Why? Because most techniques that they have read are already outdated or just some B.S hyped up. A classic approach that was used by many people in the past (and even till now) like directly visiting your ex and pleading him or her to come back to your life. Though this may sound like an easy strategy to some people but truth of a matter is, you are not going to get them back in 90% of the time.
And if the broke up was a result of a fight, serious disagreement, mistrust or some other deadly reason, then pleading and begging is almost 100% not going to work. In fact, one can only make things worse by rushing in without a plan.
If you do not have a plan now, then I strongly urge you read Step 1 for the core elements of relationship again then step 2 which is: Transform Your Ex Emotions.
This secret techniques that I am going to reveal below is a tested and proven techniques based on personal and my close friends experiences.
Using this system is easy if and only if you follow all my instructions that I am going to show you and do not deviate from the rules.
Okay, assuming you have read my step 1 and step 2 guide, then you should have some jotted down some notes about the emotions trigger that I have discussed earlier. Now, you can start using these emotions triggers at your advantage by employing my texting techniques that I am going to share with you below.
My Secret Texting Technique
Sending out the first text
You haven’t spoken to your ex for many weeks now. So, your first text should remind your ex that he or she is always your mind (Nothing more than that). You just need to communicate in a way so as to deliver an invisible assurance that you hold no grudges whatsoever towards your ex. At the same time, you need to make sure that you don’t start telling how messed up your life really is after you two parted ways (Even if you have lived somewhat miserable life due to the breakup lately).
Your first message can make use of positive triggers or experiences we discussed in the last step. You can choose a trigger based on the situation or current events going on in your life. It’s okay to wait for a few more days if that helps you to select the best emotion triggers for your first text (you don’t want to take any chances, do you?) You have to be really patient in executing this texting techniques method because that’s how it works. Let’s assume that a positive experience of your choice was watching a great football game together in the stadium. If you are watching another game now, you can text your ex that the game reminded you of him or her. Here is an example to illustrate:
“I watched MU take on the Real Madrid in the stadium today and it reminded me how we used to shout endlessly till the whole stadium turned quiet when our team won the game.”
At this point, your ex can begin a conversation with you if he or she decided to. It is like opening the door to your ex without saying anything explicitly. The plus point of sending out such a message is that your ex cannot really make out anything from such a message. It just reminds your ex of the good times you spent together. That’s all.
Once you are done sending the first text to your ex, you can expect 4 different kinds of possible outcome:
1. Your ex may not respond at all to your text.
No response’ is not the same as ‘bad response’! Chances are that your ex was surprised to see your text buzzing in their heads after a really long silence. Your ex will most likely be run over by a strong wave of emotion upon reading your text. In any case, do not freak out at ‘no response’ and do not send any more texts. Freaking out is the only mistake you can make in this case. Be calm.
2. Your ex may reply neutrally.
Let’s say your ex replies as “Great. Hope you enjoyed the match” to your first text.
Do not jump on your feet and start talking about a dozen things at once like a crazy lover upon reading the first response from your ex. Play cool and make sure it’s you who ends the conversation. That’s important (really). For example, you can reply as:
“Thanks. Yes it was great. Okay I’m going to a party now. Later.” That’s what you can say, for example.
3. A real positive response from your ex.
If it was you who broke up with your ex a month (or years) ago, he or she will probably reply this way. Your ex may also reply in a positive tone if he or she has been looking forward to get in touch with you for a really long time but never had the courage to do so.
A positive response from your ex can be “I’m glad to hear that =) How are you!”
You need to reply to this message in the same way as above. Just as you replied casually to a neutral response, you should reply to this positive response from your ex as:
“Life is good =) Okay I’m going to a party now. Later.”
The bottom-line in this conversation is that it’s you who should end the conversation. That’s how you can make your ex feel attracted to you. The longer you make your ex wait for another conversation, the better. Your ex will really be thankful the next time you drop another text!
4. A real negative response from your ex.
Let’s say your ex replies to you as “Do not text me. Please leave me alone”
In this case, you just need to give your ex more time to cool down before you send out your the next emotion trigger text. You should keep silent for few more weeks at a stretch.
Send over a mature reply and wait.
“I understand. Hope you’re doing well”
Start sending the right text to your ex and win them back!
Can you see how this works now?
By sending the correct emotion triggers text messages, you are not only going to capture your ex attention, you are also initiating the ice breaker after the long silence.
Of course, do not expect overnight results from your first text, as it is just the beginning. But you can already see how powerful this technique is by now.
There are just so many little known secret techniques that I wish to share with you here but I do not wish to put it online as I do not want people to abuse it and make it no longer effective for your own relationship. And every relationship is facing a unique set of problem that could not be covered in such a short post.
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